By Barb Ward

We all get to a point in our personal and professional lives when we must let go of things or people that are no longer a positive force for good. But, how do you know when and what to let go of? The ability to let go and move on is essential for personal growth and well-being but making that move can be daunting. For most of us, staying in the comfort zone is easier, and may be more desirable in the short term, but when you continue doing things you dread, that no longer bring you joy, and that make you feel bad about yourself, it’s best to address the issue head-on.

When you learn to evaluate and let go of things that don’t serve you, you make room for growth and opportunity and often release a new, more positive perspective on your future. As a leader, you can also lead your team through this process to help them renew their commitment and engagement.

So, how do you identify those things (or people) that must go? Here are some questions you can ask yourself to help determine if it’s time to release or move on from certain aspects of your life:

Lack of fulfillment: Does it bring you joy and satisfaction? Does it give you a sense of purpose? Whether it’s a job, a relationship, a hobby, or a commitment, if it no longer energizes you and rather leaves you feeling drained or depleted it may be time to reevaluate its place in your life. 

Negative impact on well-being: Does it consistently cause stress, anxiety, or unhappiness? Does it negatively impact your overall health and happiness? By paying attention to how certain things or people affect your mental, emotional, and physical well-being, you can often determine if it’s time to let it go.

Stagnation and lack of growth: Do you feel stuck in a situation or notice that it hinders your personal or professional growth? Holding onto things that don’t provide opportunities for learning, development, or progress can hinder your potential and limit future possibilities.

Misalignment with values and priorities: Does it align with your values and the direction you want to take in life? As you grow and evolve, your values and priorities may change. If something no longer aligns with who you are it may be necessary to let go of it to make space for what truly matters to you.

Intuition and inner guidance: Do you have “a gut feeling” that it’s time to move on? Trust your intuition and listen to your inner voice. Deep down, you often have an innate sense of what is right for you. 

Unhealthy or toxic relationships: Are you in a situation or relationship that is consistently toxic, manipulative, or abusive? If so, it is crucial to prioritize your well-being and safety. Removing yourself from toxic situations or relationships is necessary for your overall happiness and well-being.

Lack of progress toward goals: Is the commitment you’ve made helping you make progress toward your goals? If it is getting in your way or doesn’t align with your aspirations, it may be time to let it go.

Taking time to determine what is working and what is not in both your personal and professional lives is both anxiety-provoking and liberating. It’s important to remember that letting go is not easy, and it can involve a range of emotions. Give yourself time and space to process these feelings. Seek support from trusted friends, family, or professionals if needed. 

Ultimately, letting go of things that no longer serve you creates room for new opportunities, growth, and positive experiences that align with who you are and what you aspire to achieve.

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